Wednesday, April 8, 2015

New series for moms- May 1st

Hi, my name is Maegan. And I’m a stay at home mom. And a wife. And a publishing professional, And a writer. And a ministry leader. And a volunteer. And a soon to be homeschool mom.

Truth is, this is a place of vulnerability for me. A topic that has been so sensitive over the years its caused more damage than I care to admit. I dare say I’m alone. I’ve never met a Mom that doesn't struggle with wondering if she’s doing enough for her family and with feelings of guilt if she has deep aspirations that leave her heart torn. For me, it’s been a five year journey that the Lord has taught me lessons of confidence and boldness of faith in over time.

If you've ever wondered how to balance the dreams of your heart with being the keeper of your home then this short series is for you.

If you've ever wondered “Is this it, Lord?” Then this is for you.

If you've ever felt ridiculed or judged by pursuing your God-given passions as a mom then this is for you.

If you know you’re called to be a Mom, but also to work in the world, or ministry, or do something else that lights a fire in you to change the world, then this is for you.

Its taken me 5 years of motherhood to truly see that God planted inside of you and me a desire to do something. Something bold, beautiful, and ultimately purposeful. Something great for Him. But the world will often leave you feeling torn. Like you have to be fully dedicated to one or the other, but that somehow there’s not room for both. And if you try to make room for both, you’re just a wanna-be super mom that’s ultimately neglecting everything and everyone.

Can I tell you something?

God didn’t ask us to set aside our God-given talents, desires and dreams to just wipe snotty noses, play referee for sibling arguments, and do the dishes. He didn’t ask us to approach those mommy tasks with drudgery either. But many of us are. Because we've tucked our dreams away. Maybe for fear of failure, or for lack of support, or because we just don't trust Him with them.

He asked us to glorify Him… in whatever we’re doing (1 Corinthians 10:31). And the truth is, we glorify Him the most when we’re the most satisfied in Him and in our calling.

1 Corinthians 1:7b-8, All God’s gifts are right in front of you as you wait expectantly for our Master Jesus to arrive on the scene for the Finale. And not only that, but God himself is right alongside to keep you steady and on track until things are all wrapped up by Jesus. (MSG)

What you do day in and day out matters. Whether you’re pursuing those God-given talents right now or not and whether you’re being applauded or validated for your actions each day or not, your calling is a noble one! And he sees you. Your Father validates you. He knows your heart, He knows your dreams, and He is equipping you each day for such a time as this. Our roles are no accident. And they matter. Do not let anyone else qualify your calling.

The call of God doesn't come to the qualified. It qualifies you because it has come. - Timothy Keller

So, May 1st. I’ll see you here, friends. And we can believe God to help us surrender our dreams for His glory. Together.

Monday, February 16, 2015

Love Like This

"God is love. When we take up permanent residence in a life of love, we live in God and God lives in us. This way, love has the run of the house, becomes at home and mature in us …" 1 John 4:17 (MSG)

We're not Valentine's Day celebraters. In 9 years of marriage I don't think we've ever done the whole V-day date night extravaganza or whatever most couples do. But, now that we have children and they're old enough to understand that it's a holiday that celebrates love, we're finding the opportunity is ripe for teaching them how it should be celebrated and recognized. In a culture that releases movies touting a glossy Hollywood fantasy-based love on Valentine's Day, I'm seeing that now more than ever its imperative to teach our children what true love is.

My marriage is far from perfect. Far... do you hear me? However; we've learned from several mistakes that I believe the Lord is using to shape our marriage to be better than its ever been and strong enough to withstand the daily battles we face against the flesh.

If you know my man, you know he is super tall. I chuckle when I recall our early years of dating and how this kind of bothered me. It was an attraction, but whenever my small frame stood next to him I couldn't help but be reminded of my smallness. His towering over me made me feel safe and secure, yet frail at the same time. Over time, I've realized that's a good place to be. Small. Always aware of my need for humility. And while he still towers tall, I realize he loves me best when he bends low.

Because true love is sacrificial. It's not height, but humility.

It bends low to change diapers and wipe noses.

It bends low to fold laundry and pick up toys.

It bends low to paint dresser drawers on Valentines Day when asked.

It strives to be righteous instead of right.

It bends to listen instead of always needing to be heard.

This kind of love definitely isn't seen on the big screen and isn't blowing up social media, but it's the only love I ever want to know... and want my children to know.

And love like this is ours every day when Christ lives in us and we live in Him.

Prayerfully, it's the love my children will see demonstrated in our home and in the way we serve others. So that one day they'll know, it's not about a glamorized holiday, but an every day, always serving, always bending low kind of love.

Monday, January 19, 2015

Embracing the Unknown...

So much of parenting is trial and error. There have been more times than I'd like to count where I got it terribly wrong, and moments when I realized we got it right. But who's keeping count?

And anyway, God's goodness intersects our every parenting moment, both good and bad. But over the last five years, if He has taught me anything about parenting it's that if my confidence as a parent is in the Lord, then He will bless my children and bless our efforts. It has been in the times of feeling secure in myself or a parenting book that I read, or a blog, or even advice from another wiser more experienced parent, that I have stumbled and realized my confidence cannot be in my fleshly wisdom but simply in the grace of God.

Celebrating Emmalyn's 5th birthday last week had me thinking a lot on our parenting journey thus far. I'll be honest, Emmalyn hasn't been that difficult to parent. She truly is a joy and while I know our share of trying stages and chapters are ahead, she has given us more joy and laughter than anything thus far. But in thinking about what lies ahead and the unknown, I realized that I'm always doubting and always fearing the next thing, the next chapter, or the next step.

I had to get honest with God about my place of uncertainty and if my emotions were overwhelming me due to Emmalyn's little milestone, or if I was overcome with fear over a new chapter that is yet unknown to us?

God reminded me of the story of Gideon in Judges 6. Gideon overcame his doubts and fears by focusing on what God thought about him. First though, he had to process his doubts with God honestly. He told the angel of the Lord that he questioned God's presence and doubted His promises because of recent conflicts and defeats.

My personal evaluation had me realizing that conflict, criticism, and comparison often leads be into fear and doubt. Conflict will tell me that I'm disqualified to do what I do, criticism paralyzes me from believing I can do certain things, and comparison will convince me that someone else can do it better than I can.

But God says... I am calling you out of the darkness. Turn toward the light and truth of what I say about you.

You are a chosen (woman) and a royal (priest), a holy (daughter), God's special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light. 1 Peter 2:9

So, you can embrace the unknown not because of what qualifies you as a parent, but because of WHO qualifies you as a parent. He's given us this amazing privilege of shepherding our sweet gifts, so I'll do so with confidence in who he says I am.

But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. Jeremiah 17:7